Saturday, December 31, 2011

My Top Five Gastric Bypass Posts from 2011

Gastric bypass surgery is a big part of who I am.  I hate to let my varying weight define me but it certainly is a daily issue in my life.  So I thought ending the year with my top five gastric bypass/weight loss surgery posts would be fitting.  

Happy New Year to each of you.  2012 will be the Year of the Viking.  And I promise it will be the best year yet!

No one wants to talk about this...but I will!  (This post actually lists most of my gastric bypass posts for 2011, but this current list cuts to the chase.)


A guest post from Melissa:


Take your vitamins:


My support group:

About my surgiversary this year:

http://lolorashel.blogspot.com/2011/03/i-am-seven.html

Friday, December 30, 2011

My Top Ten Pole Dancing Posts from 2011

I've been trying to choose my top ten blog posts (from my own blog) for 2011.  It was so hard because I talked to a lot of amazing people this year.  I had a hard time picking only ten so I decided to choose posts to represent different categories.

Pioneer of Pole

Without those who paved the way, the rest of us wouldn't be pole dancing right now!


Men on the Pole

I love my pole sisters but watching men on the pole is a bit fun as well!


Speaking of pole sisters...

Here's one for the curvy dancers!


The debate surrounding pole dancing and being sexy


Traveling


Making friends


Innovation


Natasha Wang



I feel like I had so many other awesome posts but if I had to cut it down to ten, these ten are pretty awesome.  Please feel free to search around for other posts that might be of interest to you.  Categories include Pro Spotlight, Studio Spotlight, Power of Pole, Men on the Pole, Poletry in Motion, Star Spotlight, and Pole Goals.

Here are my top ten most viewed posts:





2011 has been pretty awesome and I'm looking forward to 2012 being even more so!

Power of Pole - A Day of Giving the Gift of Pole

I want to thank Pole For A Cause and Pole Spin Magazine for giving me a wider audience for my request to get other pole studios involved in fundraising this year!  

http://poleforacause.com/2011/12/power/

Lovely Rita Fundraiser For National Kidney Foundation

Lovely Rita Fundraiser For National Kidney Foundation

On Sunday, April 22, 2012, Twirly Girls Pole Fitness will hold the third annual  Lovely Rita Fundraiser.  I wrote a blog about this fundraiser (and others), in a previous Pole For A Cause post, Fighting The Good Fight.  Rita, a student at Twirly Girls and close friend of mine, has been blessed with three kidney transplants.  It is important to Rita to support the NKF, so it is important to us as well.

Supporting charities in our pole community is an important topic.  We at Twirly Girls would like to ask pole studios all over the world to join us on April 22nd to raise money for a charity that is important to their studio.  There are many ways to raise money.  You can offer classes and workshops and donate any money raised.  You can have a student and instructor showcase or an open house with raffle and/or silent auction.  You would be surprised at how willing local businesses are to donate gift certificates or items if you are willing to advertise their donations to your studio members.

We have started a group on Facebook called Power of Pole – A Day of Giving the Gift of Pole, to help coordinate the event.  If your studio is interested in joining us, please join us on Facebook.  The most important thing to remember is that there is no pressure.  We are not keeping track or asking you to give money to us.  Find a cause close to your heart and donate directly to that charity.  It will be fun to report back on Facebook and celebrate all of the good that the Power of Pole can bring to our lives!

Written by Lory Myers. Photo by Liquidpulp Photography.

Thursday, December 29, 2011

Be Yourself...or Be Someone Else

About two " format changes" ago, a lot of inspirational quotes started showing up on Facebook via photo uploads.  I love them all.  I've been adding a lot of inspirational fitness and pro-female-related quotes, you know...to motivate me to get in shape and be healthy and all that crap.  But I do have to laugh.  Half of them tell me I should be myself and accept people for who they are.  The other half are telling me to buck up and make changes so I don't continue to be the slouch I've always been.  So what do you want, Oh Facebook-motivational-quotes?  Do you want me to be myself -- a 35-year-old, overweight and lazy chick?  Or do you want me to be who I've always wanted to be -- a 25-year-old (or so) hottie who is rich, famous and gets to spend every waking minute having fun and pole dancing her ass off? 





















Pioneer of Pole: Sheila Kelley and S Factor

Sheila Kelley is one of the most famous pole pioneers.  She definitely makes pole more of a lifestyle than a workout.  If you have not been to an S Factor class, I suggest you try one!

My first-ever pole class was at S Factor in San Francisco about three years ago.  I was really impressed (and surprised) with how safe the studio made me feel.  It was kind of dark but warm and very inviting. I know you first got into pole dancing for a movie role and realized the increased fitness was an added benefit.  What made you decide that the sensuality of exotic dance was an important part of the workout?

Hi Lori, thanks for reaching out to me! I love talking about S, sharing my passion for elevating the feminine, which has become the passion of so many women, and every opportunity to "wake the S up" in the world.  It wasn’t the sensuality of traditional exotic dance that became a part of S Factor, it was the natural sensuality of a woman's body that I began to acknowledge in my own body.  The no make-up, hair undone, no frills, pure, organic S shape of our hips, butt, shoulders, wrists, the inside of a woman's elbow, everything top to bottom, right down to our baby toes.  Women are sexy!  Right out of the womb.  And that sensuality in the shape of our hips, also lives inside our hips.  We are circular natured and we are built to move naturally in a circular, sensual way.  It's enticing to men in an exotic dance environment because (well they are enticed by women whether we are moving or standing still!) we're exaggerating those S shapes.  But for women at S, we're just doing what comes naturally in the privacy of our S studios, and the sensuality of it is inherent.

I remember busting out a CRAZY hard core workout before we got anywhere near the pole.  How important do you feel it is to build a strong foundation before you stick ladies to the pole?  

I designed the S Factor Workout to cover every base of feminine fitness that I (and so many of my girlfriends) had tried for years to find in multiple forms of exercise.  We were taking Pilates for the ab work, yoga for long lean muscles and stretching and meditation, different kinds of dance, jogging, biking, hiking, treadmilling, weights, ahhhhhhhhhH!  It was too much and none of it worked.  I tried everything alone and in every conceivable combination and it just felt like this uphill battle that one could never catch up with, especially after having children.  When I built S Factor I wanted to create something "total body" that could be achieved in 2 hours once a week.  That's why S Factor's copyrighted sequence of circular fluid feminine movements is multi-directional and isometric.  You feel it in your entire body because a woman's entire body needs and craves movement in order to feel balanced.  It is designed to prep women to do polework too!  In Level 1 and 2 of the S Factor Original Series session women learn signature S Factor polework that builds their upper body and abdominal strength, which then prepares them for more advanced signature S Factor climbs and inversions as they progress to Levels 3 - 6 of their Erotic Creature Journey.

You were at the forefront of bringing pole to the every-day woman. How do you feel about it going mainstream?

It's like...I keep waiting to wake up.  It's really something.  I never imagined when I was teaching S Factor to women in my house back in 2001 that something like this could have such a tremendous affect on the world and history.  Nothing like S Factor existed on the planet.  And there we were, these extraordinary women and me, just celebrating our femininity and having fun.  To be an innovator of something brings with it a lot of responsibility.  I receive thousands of letters from all over the world from women who have tried "pole dance fitness."  Some I have to say have had a different experience than what S Factor is defined as.  While I love that there is a growing community of women exploring new ways to move their body, I wish I could be everywhere in the world at once with an actual S Factor studio on every corner because we do more than just dance on a pole.  And that "more" has become the impetus behind my Soulfully Sexy DVD Series and the Wake the S Up movement.  S = Feminine.  The idea of women having a culture of their own is what I hope will become mainstream, versus simply the act of pole dancing.

I have met many amazing dancers who have come from S Factor backgrounds: Natasha Wang, Claire Griffin Sterrett, Amy Kim, Sheena LaShay, and my own friend here in California, Jenny Gain.  I'm sure there are many, many more I'm missing.  How proud are you of your ladies being in the pole world limelight?

The women who currently teach S Factor at our studios are some of the most phenomenal women I have ever met in my life.  Our highly trained staff have inspired many women in the world.  S teachers do more than just guide women through the workout, or teach them pole tricks.  They dramatically change lives.  They are therapists, body whisperers, confidantes, nurturers, healers, they are in the limelight of each and every life they touch through the two hours they share once a week with women from all walks of life.  And I am proud to have them as sisters and friends.

Do you participate in pole competitions?  

I don't personally because the dark, rich chocolate fudge that is S Factor movement itself off the pole is what I aspire to journey deeper into.  However, S Factor is very proud of our S teachers Barbara Dial in New York and Jen Campo in Houston who have won major pole dance competitions due in part to the uniquely feminine nature of S Factor's signature style.

Recently, some of my pole dancing friends who are mothers have had issues with their children's friends making fun of their mom for being a "stripper."  Did you ever have to deal with that.  If so, how did you handle it?  If not, how would you advise someone to handle it?  

Hmmmm...this is the first I've ever heard of this happening.  I guess I would say that children tease other children about a whole slew of things that are untrue.  There really isn't anything that can be done about it, it's just kids.   I know that many S moms bring their daughters in to our Mother-Daughter classes and events and the little ones have a perfect understanding of the difference between S Factor movement and "pole dancing."

Men on the pole is a very hot topic right now.  S Factor is very famously a place for women only.  Do you foresee a change in that policy any time soon?  

There's been some confusion about this.  Actually S Factor is very open to teaching men.  I even taught Conan O'Brien (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qPKzdwhRTyE).  And there's a note about it in the FAQ section of our website.  Due to the nature of the Erotic Creature Journey,  S Factor classes are not co-ed, but men may call their nearest studio and request a Private Lesson or Private Party.  I've taught S to a bunch of men (we have a few guys who work upstairs in the LA offices who have taken a class or two) and it's fun to see them find their feminine side.  They get a kick out of it and they really get it.  They get that it's no different than men basking in their masculinity on a golf course or basketball court.

What kind of "diet" do you follow?

Diet is an evil word and I don't do it.  I eat clean and healthfully, and I do S Factor!

Do you like to dance in shoes or barefoot?

I love, love, love my 6 and 7-inch stilettos.  They make me feel larger than life.  But some days a girl's just gotta go barefoot!

Is there anything else you'd like us to know about you, any upcoming events or S Factor?  

YES!  The S Factor Retreat is like...where do I begin?  Imagine a world completely ruled by women.  Imagine everything you see, hear, eat, sleep, breathe, say, do, feel, smell, experience...it's all been hand-selected to cultivate your feminine side.  You are surrounded by other women who are there for the same purpose and it's just a frickin' lovefest of what it means to be a woman, what we struggle with together and apart and how easy it is for us to elevate our minds, bodies, hearts and souls when we pull ourselves out of the every day stresses of life and retreat in every sense of the word, into our femininity.  We can be emotional, we can be sensual, we can be loud and wild and young and free, we have no responsibilities except to ourselves and our own desires and pleasures and needs.  We can play (and we do in luxurious outdoor locations and indoors at 5-star resorts!!), smile, laugh, dance and live authentically in our skin with no apology.  It's heaven.  It's bliss.  Women come from all over the globe and I personally teach the classes and seminars along with the best of the best S teachers from our studios across the U.S.  It's an awakening that's like jet fuel propelling women toward achieving their greatest desires and becoming more successful in all areas of their life.  I've also taught mini-retreats as part of Tony Robbins' Platinum Partners retreats and the philosophies go hand-in-hand.  This is for women who are ready to be reborn as superwomen.  We'll be in Miami this coming February!  We may be sold out by the time you read this but we're working on opening up more spots because the retreats are so popular.  We limit registration so that I can really spend a lot of one-on-one time with each woman and really give them an understanding of the mind, body, heart and soul of S Factor.  Miami in February will be our 4th retreat I have hosted!  Women can go to SFactor.com/Retreat and get all of the details.  I'm looking forward to meeting your readers and you Lori if you can come!

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I know Sheila is a busy lady and I really appreciate her participation in my blog.  S Factor has four locations in California, two in New York, one in Houston and one in Chicago.  Check out http://sfactor.com/ for more info!

Wednesday, December 28, 2011

This Diva is Surviving on a Shoestring Budget

Almost two years ago, I went credit card-free.  That's right.  No credit cards whatsoever.  I have been an over-spender and compulsive shopper for my entire adult life.

I always hate telling people this, but I filed for Chapter 7 bankruptcy at only 23 years old.  I got my first credit card the minute I turned 18 and went off on a fun-spree.  When my live-in boyfriend and I broke up at the age of 23 and I started using credit to live, that's when I crossed the line into trouble territory.  I thought that filing would keep me out of trouble for awhile.  Not the case.  I was discharged from bankruptcy five months later and the credit cards offers started rolling in immediately.  Since you are not a huge credit risk (can't file again for at least 7-10 years), a lot of credit card companies are happy to give you credit.  I had a new card with a ridiculous interest rate but a $3,000 limit within a month.  For emergencies, you know.  Right!

Ten years later, I was facing bankruptcy again.  This time a Chapter 13 to deal with my condo, which had gone from a value of $265,000 to $65,000 (and the values of those condos continued to drop after auction...I heard they were down to $50,000 last year).  My credit card debt was not nearly as ugly as it was when I was 23, but I was still living beyond my means.  On many levels.  Filing bankruptcy means you wipe it all away -- no picking and choosing who you will pay.  And a Chapter 13 means I am paying back a portion of what I owe to my creditors.  It also means I cannot have any credit cards for the five years I am making those payments.  (I can take on certain loans with permission from the court but the bank's interest rates are so high, I'd be better off asking a loan shark for money.)  So I guess I am not technically "debt-free" but I am "credit card-free."  I make a $725.00 payment to the court every month to pay off that debt.  I have been making that stupid monthly payment for the last two years.  I have three years left.  You know how many shoes and massages I could buy with $725.00 a month?!

For someone who has depended so heavily on credit for so long, going without that safety net was scary.  What if my tire blows out and I need four new tires all at once?  What if a really awesome jacket goes on sale and I NEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEED it?!!!!!!

Guess what...every time I've gotten down to my last dime, and I really have needed money to get by (I did need to buy those four tires all at once a couple of years ago), something happens.  An unexpected check, an early payment...something.  Call it divine intervention, luck or whatever you want.  I continue to try to send gratitude and positivity out into the universe because it comes back to me every time I actually need it to pull me through.  

I have learned a lot in the last two years.  First off, I have way fewer emergencies than I thought I did.  Second off, I stress a lot less about money when I don't have any. 

I have learned to barter to do fun things (most of the fun stuff I do is traded for a service I can offer...no, not THAT kind of service).  I have also learned that sometimes when money is tight, you just have to say no.  People understand.  I have also learned that sometimes you have to get over yourself and ask for help.  I have taken on extra side jobs writing and doing social media with Social Sonar in order to make some extra cash.  And I have not really suffered in the last two years.  Especially with the economy tanking like it has (read my old blog post about that HERE), and with credit card rates being SO expensive, I am kind of grateful to be forcefully removed from the credit world.  I really thought giving up credit cards would be a punishment worse than death.  But I have actually found it to be freeing and am hoping when credit cards DO become available to me in three years, that I will decide I don't want one. 

I really thought I was being a "good person" by going the Chapter 13 route and paying back so much of my debt.  In hindsight, I may have chosen a different route.  Not even because my payment is so high, but because my credit score will stay tanked for the entire five years that I'm making payments.  That kind of sucks.  I thought it might count for something that I was paying it back.  Yeah, it doesn't.  But live and learn.  And ten years from now I do not plan to be filing my third bankruptcy! 

I am learning that I do not need to have a lot of money to have a decent life.  I am getting along just fine and having fun along the way.

For the fun of it, HERE is an open letter I wrote to Warren Buffett.  He hasn't responded yet.  But I think he's just waiting for the right window of opportunity.  :-)

May I Introduce Pole Artist, Timber Brown!

There's not much to say about how awesome it was to see Timber Brown perform... It is better you witness it yourself. Please make sure you check out all of the videos!

I first saw you perform at the California Pole Dance Championship (here's a link to my video).  I couldn't believe how strong you were.  Okay, well you're a guy, so I *could* believe it but it was still so impressive to watch.  (I also reviewed your performance as "amazeballs" in my blog:  http://lolorashel.blogspot.com/2011/09/twirly-girls-at-california-pole-dance.html)

Wow, thank you so much. I was judging and performing at CPDC.  I enjoyed working with Anjel and X-Pole at the event. The performances were amazing and I had a front row seat!

When people comment on my strength I often tell them that it’s an optical illusion, explaining that it’s easier for me to lift or throw myself because I have little legs. :-) There is an exciting and hopeful look into the future of the pole community in your comment , “I couldn't believe how strong you were.  Okay, well you're a guy, so I *could.*” Exciting because in the future I see more organizations, equipment, and products being adapted and created to accommodate the distinctive physical attributes of each sex as well as accentuate the similarities we share as humans.

My performance at CPDC was one that I was a bit discontent with before it started. My heart was set on performing a routine that I was very excited about! Shortly before I went on stage I had to abort that performance and write down a few sequences while trying to find a good song. It came time to go on stage and I had not been able to memorize the order of my vocabulary. I brought the paper with my plan written on it and put it on the stage at the bottom of the pole. When I watch that video I can see me looking at it the whole time, Ugh. Overall it was nothing like what I had originally planned, but it went better than expected. I look back and wouldn’t have it any other way and I’m still very excited about when I will perform my original routine. 

What kind of fitness routine do you have to keep your body in shape like that?

Oh gosh, I don’t have a daily fitness plan at all which almost sounds terrible but it’s not because.....“for an extended time only, you can play on poles every day and have the body you have always wanted too!” HAHA! Really though, it is true.

Fitness is a wonderful consequence of pole activity. Pole as a form of fitness is not my primary motivation in my “work outs.” It just comes with it. I practice pole because I just love it! It feels good and I love doing it. I can go on and on but I just love everything about it. Unlike the common infomercial where a man claims “you can get fit and have a great time doing it with this apparatus...,” well in the case of pole that is 100% true

What kind of diet do you follow?

I LOVE food! I don’t follow a strict diet. I am more of a “damage control” eater versus a “prevention” eater. I eat what I need to eat at the time. I have to be true and good to myself and if that means eating Mexican food this week then it is what it is. 

Although my blog generally follows the adventures of female pole dancers, there has been a real interest lately in making the sport more fitness-oriented and less sexy.  More men are also getting involved and I am trying to include more aerial artists.  You are pretty unique in what you do.  What would you call your brand of aerial/acrobatic arts/pole dance?

I would call it “Anomaly,” a deviation from the common rule, type, arrangement, or form.

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You know, pole is many things to many different people. No one person, group, or organization can define what it is or should be except for themselves. There are some things that I am not opposed to, but just aren’t for me. I believe there is a time and a place for everything and that most things worth doing should be done decently and in order. One certainty is that regardless of what context pole may be being used, it is in any form, a form of fitness.

How did you get discovered?

I was 21 years old when an entertainment company viewed a video of me doing stunts and acrobatics. They asked me to be part of their productions. This was when I was first introduced to the pole. 

Tell us about Anomalia Entertainment.

“Anomalia” is the Italian word for Anomaly. I created this company a few years ago. The company provides specialty entertainment performances and rigging for events and productions world wide. As well as concept creation, and acrobatic vocabulary research.  In the future we hope to be a part of more events in the pole dancing community.

Have you competed in any pole/aerial events?  Do you hold any titles?

I participated in “Pole Dancing Universe International,” although I don’t remember it being named that at the time. I was awarded “pole athlete champion.” Below is the video link to that performance. Anomalia Entertainment was contracted to do the  rigging for the event which included a 14’x26’ anchored truss structure, two 14’ dance poles, and two 16’ specialty acrobatic poles.



Do you usually choreograph your routines or do you like to "free dance?"

I mostly choreograph my routines but it certainly depends on the situation. I am very particular about what I put out there. Especially when I am performing at a pole event. I could go on forever here on this... In the end, the performance is not for me. It’s for the audience. When I bow I want the audience and I, in unison, to feel that I have just given them a part of myself. Regardless if I am choreographing or dancing freely that is the goal.

Do you have a day job outside of performing?

Performing is my livelihood on both a physical and personal level. It’s very tricky sometimes but I love it. 

What do you do for down time?

I am usually up to some kind of ridiculous shenanigan but when I’m not I enjoy cooking, writing and watching TV. Some shows I like are Dexter, East Bound and Down, Family Guy, and the discovery channel. I imagine that soon I will be hiding in a bush throwing water balloons filled with ketchup at passing cars.





Is there anything else you'd like to share with everyone?

I have had strong inspiration lately in a couple of different areas. I really hope to be able to get some charity endeavors off the ground in the near future. My hope is that I will be able to raise money for specific charities through involvement in competitions, special performances, online pole skill tutorials and custom product sales just to name a few. I would like to reach out to anyone who is familiar with charity works, web development or just has helpful info that can be used to help bring attention to the work and get it off the ground.

People sometimes refer to me as a person who does Chinese poles, an aerialist or a pole dancer.... I ask that people to refer to me as a “pole artist.” Not because I am not any of the above things, but because I am all of them. In my work I strive to encompass a little bit of what all of those things means to me. 

I’d like to take the opportunity to say thank you to a few people out there who have been enablers in my life the last few years. Imagination Entertainment [also check out the show that Timber participates in: http://www.ilcirco.com/], Steve Gale [Four-Cubed Acrobatics or Radiant Productions], aerialist Alyssa McCraw, Natasha Wang [website], Kelly Yvonne and the girls at The Choreography House, the whole LA Pole community, Fawnia Dietrich and Pole Fitness Studio Las Vegas... All of you have been great influences or enablers to me and I appreciate you.

I am really excited to follow your career and look forward to the next time I get to see you perform!

Thank you so much and thank you for the opportunity to share. Happy Poling Everyone!



Two additional videos of Timber and Alyssa:






Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Shelly Lamb at the Hubba Hubba Revue!

Last night Shelly Lamb, performing as Rochelle Trishell, made her debut at the Hubba Hubba Revue burlesque show at The Uptown in Oakland.  What a FUN show!  She even got to perform twice, which was awesome. 

We watched Shelly put up her x-stage, which took less than 15 minutes (I timed her because I was like, "that's going to take an hour to put up!").  And then Rita and I debated whether she could do a spatchcock on a stage pole (uh, SHE CAN).  I guess the rest is best viewed yourself...videos and photos are below!

After the show, a girl from the audience came up and gushed about how amazing Shelly's muscle tone was.  We encouraged her to call Shelly to take classes. She really does have an amazing body.  If only I could give up cookies...  But I digress.

What an eclectic crowd of people.  The show was amazing on its own but the people-watching was priceless.  Most were wearing clothes that really fit the theme of the show.  It was really cool.  I saw at least one guy in a top hat.

I think what I loved most about the show, and about burlesque in general, is the embracing of the female body...that women are beautiful regardless of size.  I saw some girls with "un-traditional bodies" (as Roz would say) and they still took it all off (well, kinda) without even a hint of being self-conscious.  And the audience ate it up.  I think that's what I need to work on as I start this burlesque journey for myself.  It's about loving yourself.  Confidence is one of the sexiest things about a person. 


















Monday, December 26, 2011

Does my hair prove I'm bi-polar?

Last year, I explored the topic of women with long hair:  http://lolorashel.blogspot.com/2010/03/why-do-men-love-long-hair.html

Now I'm curious about hair color.  My mom is a hair stylist so I've been dying my hair since I was probably 14.  I have a different stylist now but I still love to play with hair color.  My hair is naturally a medium brown.  But I've dyed it black, blonde, red and back to brown.  And everywhere in between really.

They say blondes have more fun, but is that really true?  I'm currently rockin' a hot shade of red and I'm still having fun!

http://www.lifescript.com/life/looks/hair/what_does_your_hair_color_say_about_you.aspx

Read the entire article above...

Blondes are sexy, redheads are hot-headed and brunettes are good girls.

Is this really the message your hair color sends?

Our tress experts decode what your hues say about you, give tips on how to play up your color and share their favorite celebrity hair dos.

Red


The impression: Redheads are perceived as feisty, opinionated and seductive, much like Emma Stone in “Crazy, Stupid, Love.”

“The word associated with red is hot – hot-headed and hot-tempered, but also sexy,” says master colorist Jon Patrick (JonPatrickColor.com), who has worked with Morgan Fairchild and Elizabeth Banks.
  On the flipside, ladies in red also can be seen as homely – with freckles, frizzy orange hair and pale lashes.  “There’s the stereotype that redheads are either drop-dead gorgeous or unattractive,” Patrick says.

Play it up: Request a vibrant red shade, suggests colorist Angela Berk of the Joseph Cozza salon at San Francisco’s Four Seasons Hotel.
  “The prettiest bright red hair has highlights and lowlights,” she says.  After adding these, she recommends a bright glaze. Don’t worry – your highlights and lowlights will still shine through

Black 

The impression:
“Exotic, sultry, tough and mysterious,” Ingham says.

Think sexy starlet Megan Fox.  Another way to grab attention?
  “Ask your stylist for a blue-black or violet-black shade,” Berk says

Brown


The impression:
“Brunettes are perceived as responsible, as the good girl,” Patrick says. Think Jenna Fischer in “The Office.”

Must have: Different shades running through your locks. Brunettes can be ho-hum when their hair is monochromatic, Patrick says.  “It’s not the brown color itself that’s boring, but the sameness of it.”

Play it up: “Sex up your hair with lowlights,” Patrick suggests. “They add a sexy quality and a whole new dimension of depth.”
 

Blond

The impression:
“Blondes are often thought of as the sex bomb,” Ingham says. The ultimate blonde bombshell: Marilyn Monroe.

This shade can be hard to maintain, so golden gals can also be stereotyped as high-maintenance and vain.  “Blondes are often not taken seriously in their profession,” he says. 
The party-loving and flirty rep has advantages in the dating world.

Must have: Confidence. “Wearing blond hair is like wearing high heels,” Patrick says. “It’s a statement and an attitude.”  “You’ll certainly get more attention as a blonde.”

And do they really have more fun?   Well, they have more opportunity to have fun because of the attention they get, Patrick says.


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Here are some pics of me and my bi-polar hair throughout the years:

Brown












Blonde








Red