Thursday, April 5, 2012

Carnie Wilson in the news again...

Today I received an e-mail with the title, "Is there hope for Carnie Wilson?"  Gah.  She doesn't have cancer, she's just fat.  Then I opened up the e-mail.  Apparently Carnie Wilson was back on Dr. Oz's show and, get this....SHE JUST GOT THE LAP-BAND!! 

Wow.  Just WOW.

Carnie had gastric bypass years ago and now she just had the lap-band surgery.  Her top weight was 300 pounds.  She lost 150 pounds post-gastric bypass.  Then she gained a lot of it back.  I know she yo-yo'd, battled alcoholism, and also appeared on a celebrity weight loss show, losing 20-something pounds.  Apparently on Dr. Oz's show, she weighed around 218.  She lost 30 pounds her first month after lap-band.

She's a public reminder that I cannot fail this surgery.  Notice how I didn't say this surgery cannot fail me.  This is all about me and figuring out why I do this shit to myself.  Not why this surgery isn't doing it's job.  It did it's job.  Now it's my turn.  And it has been my turn for a very long time.  Somehow I've been sitting with the game piece in my hand, unmoving, allowing everyone and everything to pass me by.  Time to get in the game. 

The article, written by Tricia Greaves Nelson, made some great points (check out The Nelson Center For Emotional Eating HERE):

While Carnie’s desire to lose weight is a good thing, anyone who has been obese or struggled chronically with food addiction knows that having a high resolve to lose weight doesn’t ensure permanent weight loss. Even going to such desperate lengths as having lap-band surgery after gastric bypass surgery most likely won’t do the trick.

Having surgery for a food addiction problem is like having one’s leg amputated for athlete’s foot. In fact, it’s worse: at least with amputation you will no longer have athlete’s foot. With bypass surgery, you will still struggle with food addiction and will still likely be overweight, if not obese. Nothing is being done to address why a person is gorging themselves to the point of obesity. That is why Carnie’s first surgery was not a solution to her weight loss woes. And her second surgery won’t be either.

Carnie is a self-professed food addict. But it matters not what a person calls it—emotional eater, compulsive overeater, binge-eater—having any kind of compulsion with food means that a person cannot control how much she eats. That is worth repeating: She cannot control how much she eats. Carnie overate even when her stomach was shrunk by surgery. Carnie has an addiction to food that no physical impediment, apart from a jaw-wire, can curb (even then, there’s always Starbucks’ Caramel Frappuccinos). And no matter how many surgeries she tries, or restrictions she places on food choices, Carnie will not be able to control what and how much she eats. That is the nature of an addiction.

I have only recently actually come to terms with my food addiction and wrote about it HERE.  I am talking more about it in therapy.  We have spent the last two years really focusing on not spending money that I really didn't see the food thing sneaking up on me.  Well, it sneaked up and passed me by without me even realizing... 

I feel so hopeless.  If Carnie Wilson, with all of her money to hire a chef and personal trainer and free time to be at the gym 8 hours a day, cannot do it, how do I do it?  Or is it because she has all of the added advantages that she can't focus and doesn't want to knuckle down and do the work?

Food addiction is hard to fight.  With alcohol or drug addiction, at least you can abstain.  There is an anecdotal saying among Overeaters Anonymous members that "when you are addicted to drugs you put the tiger in the cage to recover; when you are addicted to food you put the tiger in the cage, but take it out three times a day for a walk."

I hate my tiger.

And, for some reason, I hate Carnie Wilson for having a second surgery.  Maybe it's just because I'm jealous.  Maybe I'm worried that a second surgery is in my destiny?  I don't know.  A few years ago, I started noticing a phenomenon of pre-op patients looking at lot like two or three month post-op patients.  Meaning...they are handing surgeries out to almost anyone who asks.  No longer do you need to be 100 pounds plus overweight.  If you have maybe 60 pounds, they'll squeeze you in.  That means I would qualify for surgery right now!

Weight loss surgery is (or should be) a life-altering event.  I still take it very seriously, although I realize that my surgeon has done all that he can for me and now I need to spend more time with my therapist to alter my brain.

How do you feel about Carnie's latest life choice?  I mean, she's a big girl (no pun intended) and can make her own decisions, but if you are a weight loss surgery patient, would you consider a revision or second surgery??

6 comments:

  1. Hey, I love your blog and have been a subscriber for some time. I also struggle with my weight, but have recently discovered amazing resources through the blogger DancesWithFat http://danceswithfat.wordpress.com/ from whom I learned about Fat activism and the Health at Every Size philosophy. I just wanted to let you know in case you haven't heard about them. They changed my life and my ideas about my body. Honestly, I think our bodies all have different set points, and your body increases or decreases your appetite to keep your weight at a constant level. you must have a naturally higher set point for your weight, so it FEELS like you are addicted to food, because your body is making you eat more to maintain a higher weight. It's not you. or your fault. or something you can really fight, unless you want to be miserable your whole life and fight your own body. You might give the Shangri-La diet a try which claims to adjust your set point through an odd method...but read the reviews on amazon, it really helps a lot of people, by decreasing their appetite. I tried it and it did decrease my appetite, but in the end i gave it up. I recently read the book Fat?So! by Marilyn Wann which is another amazing resource and puts to rest the notion that there is a "healthy weight" for every person. Just thought I would tell you about that, since you are obviously extremely fit and healthy at the weight you are....and also...I absolutely love the work you do for the pole community, keeping everyone together, and I love your honesty around your struggles, and I think you are truly gorgeous at the weight you are.

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  2. I watched Carnie on Celebrity Fit Club. She has a LOT of issues with food and not only was that addressed, the doctor on the judging panel even gave Carnie a bit of flack for her first surgery. The fact is, we (as a society) put too much influence on being "thin" and not enough on being HEALTHY! Whether it's mental health or physical health, or both, more focus is on the end result as apposed to (Miley Cyrus) "the climb". Yes, you had that first surgery, but you were climbing before and you have been climbing ever since! I have watched many amazing actresses/celebrities that are "larger" make those transformations to what they think is the "right" size. It's a shame! Sarah Rue killed it for me!!! There are amazingly healthy women out there that are role models, they have to work for what they have but they enjoy life! I understand the addiction to food but there is also a certain enjoyment we should be able to find in it. On nights that I make a fully home-cooked meal (no boxed stuff, nothing frozen) I generally feel more full and I feel better about knowing what I am putting into the food. We may not eat it raw but I have made it, with my own hands, and there is power in that.
    Keep doing what you're doing, tweek it when you need to, but try to enjoy the climb a bit cause eating should be a little enjoyable!!!

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  3. Yeah I am definitely focusing on HEALTHY and not SKINNY right now. I've been making more food myself and I do feel better. I put the scale away so I don't know my weight but I really can't let myself focus on that. I really do want to be a healthy role model for girls! I just wish I could stop beating myself up! Always love your comments, Heidi. Thank you!!!!

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  4. Victoria, thank you so much for the information and the kind words!

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  5. Carnie Wilson does not seen to be able to cope with anything unless she makes money from it. If there is a problem in the marriage or household, she goes on "Celebrity Wife Swap". Problem with weight---she a does television and magazine interview blitz and complains "woe is me". Well wake up because some people have to actually live life and do not crawl into a martini glass or a bong when they have a problem. Too much money, divorced parents, a celebrity "genius" for a father--these are not problems Carnie. Try having a special needs child, parents with Alzheimer's disease, macular degeneration that is causing one to lose their sight at 13 or losing your limbs while serving our country or running in a marathon or just standing on the sidelines to cheer on the participants. THESE are actual problems. Exhausted from your touring schedule and television show? Try supporting three children under five as a single mother and commuting by subway each day for an hour each way only to return to a walk- up apartment in a bad neighborhood. If you had to make a living as a non-celebrity--how would you even do that with a high school education? Your complaints and lifestyle are insulting to people who went to school, applied themselves and work for a living. Most of us can't invent a television show paycheck when we have a problem. Why would anyone in their right mind sell their soul in public like she has ---for a buck. Get real. This is not a person to admire or trust. She is a spoiled brat who lies for a living. Can she actually write a song or does she just take credit for it? Very sad.

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    1. It is definitely difficult to listen to a celebrity who has lots of money whining about their problems. :-/

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