It is unfortunate that the stereotype for those with larger bodies is that the person is lazy, makes horrible food decisions and doesn't care about their own well-being or their appearance. Certainly, that may be true of some fat people, but it is also very true of many thin people. Body size doesn't dictate the state of one's health -- mentally or physically.
~ Although there are many tricks that require what seems like super-human strength, there are also many pretty twirls and spins that can be done without ever leaving the floor.
~ Dancing makes you feel happy.
~ Floorwork is one of the best workouts I've ever done.
~ Meaty thighs can be strong thighs. Same thing goes for those arms. Who knew I would be the queen of doing handstands? Sure, I don't feel like I use my abs to properly lift into the handstand, but I can kick into it and I'm improving on form and technique every single time I do one.
~ The best way to gain strength is to do things that require you to use your muscles. So many people tell me they'll try pole dancing when they lose ten pounds (lost weight doesn't equal gained strength either). Don't wait to live your life. Try the things you want to try RIGHT NOW. Sure, you may not be able to do all of the things that other people in class are doing, but it isn't a contest. And you will gain strength and stamina the more you dance.
Am I inverting and Iron-X'ing like I secretly hoped I'd be able to do when I started pole dancing four years ago? No. Not even close. Did I know I'd have a major foot injury and surgery in my future that would slow me down and even send me backwards in my progress? No. But do I keep showing up every day to try to get stronger and better? Yes I do. And if there are those who want to sit up on a high horse looking down at me because I dare to be a fatty trying to keep my body moving, so be it. I can't control what other people think of me, I can only control how I respond to public comments. So I generally don't respond.
If you need help finding a class, please let me know. I have a large network of pole dancers from around the world and can help find the right class for you.