I recently left a few fat acceptance/fat friendly type groups on Facebook. I noticed that so much effort is spent on making sure certain groups aren't offended while others are completely ignored. You can't post how happy you are that you're getting married because the singles get upset. You can't post about how excited you are to be pregnant because those who can't have babies will be devastated. And you certainly, most definitely cannot speak about "dieting" because that will trigger overweight people to apparently go binge eat themselves into oblivion. Having an eating disorder myself, I kind of get it but I also feel like we all need to be in charge of our own underpants (Thanks, Ragen!) and stop spending so much time telling everyone else how to act. There's a ton of shit that triggers me. Other people talking about dieting and weight loss on Facebook isn't it. (But I get that (A) not everyone feels the same way I do and (B) if someone has a group on Facebook, they are allowed to have their own rules, which is why I just left quietly.) The word "diet" in my world plainly means the type of food I place in my face hole. My "diet" consists of fruits, vegetables, grains, meat, etc. Diet doesn't have to be a bad word.
I do admit I have been talking a lot about health and diet lately. You can catch up on some of those below:
Sugar is the Devil
Sugar and Cirrhosis of the Liver
Lowering C-Reactive Protein
CRP and Cholesterol
Calories in versus Calories out
General update on my vitamin issue
Anyway, yesterday in one of these groups, someone posted about how they wanted to be Health At Every Size friendly but felt that they personally needed to lose weight (or at least not gain weight) so that they could continue to ride horses comfortably (horses DO have a weight limit so this isn't just about fat people being able to do pretty much everything thinner people do). I get where this girl is coming from (hellooooooo, I just had the same experience recently and was terrified the horse was going to fall over dead the minute I got into the saddle). I see it posted every day though -- someone saying they support HAES, just not for themselves (and Ragen explaining that supporting HAES doesn't mean that you can't ever need or want to lose weight, but that it IS about listening to your body and giving it the nourishment and movement it needs). And if I privately message most of these people, they tell me how terrified they are to state that publicly because they don't want to be burned at the stake. We do want to believe that there are things we can do regardless of what we weigh to make ourselves healthier and happier. Eat right. Exercise. Whatever. But what I recently discovered was that when I TRULY started feeding my body properly, I lost weight. I didn't change the number of calories I was taking in (and, in fact, if I don't eat all of "my" calories, I am really exhausted the next day, so I truly need that fuel now), I really just changed the quality and type of food.
My highest weight post-surgery was 263 pounds last November (highest pre-surgery weight was 350, lowest post-surgery weight was 180). I was 258.6 when I stared nutrition counseling with Ellen in May. And I am 250 pounds today. Anyway, I didn't mention all those numbers in my post in that Facebook group but wanted to give you a reference point. It's not like I'm trying to say I lost 50 pounds in a month or anything. I commented that I had changed the types of food I ate, but not my caloric intake and had lost weight. Suddenly, people are pissed that weight loss was brought up (wasn't the point of the original post that this girl didn't want to gain anymore weight??). Two of the girls in that thread actually privately messaged me and I sent them my calories in/calories out blog because I told them I wouldn't post it in that group and be attacked. I believe there are way more people out there like me and those other two girls. Sure the concept of HAES is great but I personally don't have a body that wants to weigh 350 pounds. I don't have health at that size. Hell, I don't have health at THIS size (as my doctor likes to remind me at almost every visit...I have the most health problems of any patient my age at his clinic), and I am working on that. So, I left that group. The moderator of that group has a right to police the topics of her group but if I am going to be picked on because I even mentioned the words "lost weight," then I don't need to be part of that group. I wasn't bragging. I wasn't posting before and after photos. I just simply mentioned, hey I made some nutritional changes and noticed my body was ready to let go of some weight.
|My blog, my rules|
“Fortunately, there’s an easy way to keep track of your calories even though you can’t see, taste, or smell them.
Marion Nestle says that the best way to measure calories is to step on a scale. So, lessee. I stepped on the scale and I weigh 160 pounds. If I’m 55% water (hooray, no calories there!), and 4% minerals (wait, does calcium have calories?), and then 13% protein (4 calories), 24% fat (9 calories) and 4% carbohydrate (4 calories), well then, hmm multiply by and convert and carry the one and—got it!—
That means if I decrease my calorie intake by 500 calories a day (this where all that helpful calorie information on the side of the box of low-fat, high-fiber, individually calorie-control portion food comes in handy) and increase my activity by 500 calories a day (which I understand I can do simply through insanity, which—according to my children—should not be much of a stretch), that means that on November 10, 2012, sometime around noon, I will disappear altogether because all my calories will be gone. See how easy that is.”
^ That's some funny shit.
Dr. David Ludwig and Mark Freedman:
"The more calories we lock away in fat tissue, the fewer there are circulating in the bloodstream to satisfy the body’s requirements. If we look at it this way, it’s a distribution problem: We have an abundance of calories, but they’re in the wrong place. As a result, the body needs to increase its intake. We get hungrier because we’re getting fatter."
The fate of a 'calorie' of food depends completely on its specific molecular composition, the composition of the foods accompanying it, and how those molecules interact with our current metabolic and nutritional state."
"Counting calories to lose weight does not work for the majority of dieters. This happens, in part, because the calories in food are not the same as those expended by the body."