Monday, May 20, 2019

My Spiritual Awakening: Nature Goddess Adventures

I have been on quite the spiritual journey lately, and I feel like a completely different person.  There isn't one single thing that has "cured" me.  But I feel like in the last four years, I have learned how to get my anxiety and depression under control.  I have healed my horrible body image issues.  I have generally become a softer and more gentle person.  I am so grateful for this journey.  Recently, I have felt compelled to share my story and help others.  I met someone who said he saw me writing a book and doing workshops for women.  A week later, my friend and I were hiking and we heard chanting.  Being out in nature lately has been extremely important to me.  She said we should host some spiritual hikes.  So we started planning.  I knew I wanted my amazing yoga instructor there.  I figured we could do mini-retreats.  A little hiking to get ourselves out into nature.  A little yoga to ground us.  Then a speaker to talk about self-esteem and other topics that will help women empower themselves to be more joyful in their lives.  I have a multitude of friends who could fill this speaking role.  I went to my team of three friends with my full idea and everyone was on board immediately.  I am currently reaching out to local parks to see if a permit will be required and am planning our first event for July.

I started a Facebook page for this endeavor.  I decided to call it Nature Goddess Adventures.  I don't want to discourage men from joining us, but I do plan to focus on issues that often traditionally affect women.  So much has happened in other states with women's reproductive rights being taken from them.  I wanted a safe place for women to be able to be vulnerable and share their innermost fears and celebrate their greatest successes.  I like to call us a meetup for like-minded spiritual friends!

If you want to read about my progression, here are some posts you may enjoy:

The Shadow Self

An Entire Year of Joy

Living My Best Life

Eager Anticipation

Living An Exuberant Life

Curing Psoriasis

I Am So Fortunate

The Path Of Least Resistance

Everything Happens For A Reason

A Unicorn's Journey

Transformation

The Art Of Being Busy

Mind-Body Connection

I know that's a lot of links, but I kind of wanted to re-live my own awakening.  I feel like body acceptance (helped along by Twirly Girls and Chunky Girls) has morphed into acceptance in all areas of my life.  Letting go and not attaching to an outcome has completely changed my perspective, leading to a more joyful life.  I am really excited to be on this journey, and I am even more excited to invite all of you on it with me.  Please join me on Facebook and Instagram where I hope to share inspirational posts with all of you and have some fun conversations.  If you're local to the San Francisco Bay Area, please join us for an event soon!

Sunday, May 19, 2019

Twirl for a Cause: Chunky Girls Style

Robert has done it again!  He hosted another Twirl for a Cause to benefit his AIDS LifeCycle ride.  I believe he raised $3,500 (and is close to meeting his $15,000 goal).  Marisa and I came with another faux drag performance, this time as Rihanna and Britney. (Thank you to Ben for being our boy toy, and to Cassie Begley for the rope choreography!)

Check out the video:




Hundreds of riders leave on June 2nd.  They will be riding from San Francisco to Los Angeles -- 545 miles.  If you have some spare cash, please consider donating:  www.tofighthiv.org/goto/CowboyWild

GOOD LUCK ON THE RIDE!!






Thursday, May 2, 2019

Your Shadow Self

Recently, I saw the movie, Us.  While I watched it, I thought it was probably the worst movie I'd ever seen.  It was "classic" horror.  Look behind you!  Why aren't you running?!  Why are you going back in there??  The twists were pretty obvious and there was little jump factor.  Once I got home and thought about it a little more, however, I realized there was much deeper meaning hidden in that movie (other than how offensively horrible race relations are in the United States).  Without ruining too much of the plot in case you haven't seen it, the movie really makes you think about your shadow self. 

What is the shadow self?  It is the part of us we don't want to admit to having.  We may consider her weak or lazy.  We probably blame her for weight issues or the inability to commit to a relationship.  Most of us push our shadow selves away.  Reject her.  Tell her she's bad and needs to stay locked up.  She sits in a dark room stewing until some day she reappears.  Maybe you need her and you subconsciously call to her.  Maybe you have a moment of "weakness" and she just shows up.  But you'll have to face her sadness or rage someday. 

When you reject your shadow self, you reject yourself.  You tell yourself that you aren't good enough because this small piece of you is "wrong" in some way.  You spend so much of your life trying to keep her down.  So much precious energy that could have been used in a much more positive way. 

I recently did a Seven Day Healing Program through Preside Life.  Each day you listen to audio then journal answers to the questions he asks.  Although he doesn't specifically call it the shadow self, he does talk about the wounded inner child, which is essentially the same thing to me.  He talks about the masks we were made to wear as children in order to fit into our families.  I won't go too much into what he teaches, but the end result is accepting that your parents did the best they could, they did love you unconditionally, and you should learn how to talk to your inner self when you are feeling insecure and unworthy.  For me, it was important to realize how many things I use to stuff my feelings, and how I can rewrite my script to self-soothe in more healthy (or, at least for now, less damaging) ways. 

So many of us have those feelings of unworthiness.  We settle for sub-par relationships.  We don't ask for raises at work, or go for the better jobs.  We have to take sleeping pills to sleep, then we have to down gallons of coffee to wake up.  We eat to damage our bodies.  We exercise to punish ourselves.  We drink alcohol or take drugs to excess to dull the pain.  We make ourselves too busy so we don't have to sit in silence and listen to our own brains scream at us.  We push people away and pretend we don't need anyone else.  We spend hours looking at our phones, and not living in the real world.  It leads to a life of feeling very much alone in our misery.

What if you flipped the script?  What if you accepted your shadow self?  What if you looked at your wounded inner child, the one telling you that you aren't good enough, as trying to protect you, not keep you down?  If you don't go for that better job, you won't feel rejected if you don't get it.  But what if, instead of feeling dejected and freezing in your tracks, you took that feeling and let it propel you forward?  You weren't ready for that job, but now you're motivated to go back to school or get more training, which will allow you to get an even better job down the road.  One of my favorite things to say lately is: "Rejection is always protection, and delay does not always mean denial." 

I recently listened to the audio book, The Obstacle Is The Way.  The book tells you that obstacles aren't what keep you from success, they are, in fact, what will ultimately make you successful.  I have begun creating a program that combines hiking, yoga, and a little bit of a spiritual lesson.  I have also been writing a book about manifesting.  I realize now that I wouldn't be able to do these things had I not had the life lessons that led me to the hard work I've been doing in the last four years. 

So, that overly loud, chubby, mediocre, semi-attractive, commitment-phobe I've loved to bag on for so many years, is the same girl that is going to help me write the program that I hope will help many other people in the world.  She was my shadow self for years, but she recently walked into the light, and she and I are going to rule this roost together, hand-in-hand.