With the recent drama surrounding the breast cancer charity turning down a donation from the American Pole Fitness Association, it brings up the difference between stripping and pole fitness. Or the lack thereof. Depending on who you ask, of course.
I've heard both sides, and I get it for the most part. Pole fitness girls (and boys) want to be taken "seriously" so they try to distance themselves from the "dark and dirty" strippers. Strippers are offended because they're busting their ass on the pole too. I can't speak for anyone else, so let me give you my opinion. I know I've vaguely touched on this before but I want to write more specifically about it.
I don't hate on strippers. One blogger put it beautifully...(paraphrasing here, and probably badly at this point, since its been so long since I read the quote)...there are a million ways to get into shape so if you're doing this for fitness, you have to ask yourself why you chose to wrap yourself around a pole.
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Side note: That "quote" is from The Pole Story...GREAT BLOG...and she talks a lot about this subject:
http://polestory.blogspot.com/2010/01/sensual-sexual-side-of-pole.html
http://polestory.blogspot.com/2010/01/pole-dancers-guide-to-anti-poler-part-1.html
http://polestory.blogspot.com/2010/02/pole-dancers-guide-to-anti-poler-part-2.html
Heather also touched upon this subject before:
http://thatshowipole.blogspot.com/2010/01/sadly-stigma-remains.html
Jennifer from PoleSkivvies too!
http://poleskivvies.com/2009/05/strippers-and-pole-dancing/
And Yannori from Express the Sensual:
http://www.expressthesensual.com/2010/02/24/pole-dancing-isnt-just-about-the-tricks/
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But I digress...
I understand that the general population thinks stripping is essentially the same as prostitution. And I get that some strippers get into prostitution, but I don't think they all do. In fact, I know not all do.
I think some women consider stripping an empowerment thing. They are controlling what the men see and touch. Others consider that selling your body, even if you aren't having sex with anyone. To each his own.
I know that in my own class, I am learning to be fit and I am learning to be sexy (and more comfortable with myself -- and with my body and how it looks right now, not 10 pounds or 50 pounds lighter than it is right now). So, for me to look down on stripping and call myself only a pole fitness enthusiast would be almost disrespectful to the roots of my sport. I have said on many occasions that if I had a better body and a little more rhythm, I wouldn't be opposed to making some money as a stripper!
I imagine it can be easy to get sucked into drugs or prostitution, making more and more money, etc. But that is a whole other subject.
So anyway, at the end of the day, I don't care if pole fitness was born from stripping. It is what it is. I enjoy what I do, and I can't change history. If you haven't tried it, before you judge, get on a pole for just one class. Then come tell me that you don't have just a tiny bit more respect for a stripper who can work the pole!
This blog blossomed in 2010 to chronicle my adventures in pole dance after weight loss surgery. Although I am pole dancing less these days, I still hike and do yoga. I sometimes still have to remind myself that the size of my body doesn't dictate my worth. I believe living a life full of gratitude and joy helps lead to a true mind, body and spirit connection. You have the power to manifest your best life!
You go girl!!! Funny, the hubby and I just had a conversation about striping the other day!!! We just found out my cousin has quit college after his wrestling scholarship went away and has now decided to be a MMA fighter. Gregg was SHOCKED to see our family supporting my cousins new adventure, even though he is young, newly married, and doesn't have much of an income. I said "To each his own, it's his life, we're just here to support him." To which Gregg argued "What if your daughter came up to you one day and said she wanted to be a stripper!?!?" In short, a long argument took place where I defended the right of my child as long as she is over 18, and as long as she is staying clean and living responsibly. It's a hard line to cross, but if a woman is confident enough to strut her stuff and isn't taking money from our taxes, I'm all good!
ReplyDeleteWell...like I said...there is something about that world that drags a lot of girls into prostitution and drug addiction. So I can't say I don't understand why someone would be disappointed if their daughter wanted to be a stripper. However, there has to be some way to make it work, right???
ReplyDeleteI mean, I'm sure someone could come in here and completely school me about the sex trade and slaves and how women are forced into it. I'm not ok with that at all. But if the little blue-eyed Cindy from Kansas wants to dance around on a pole for spending money, I say go for it!!
I agree! as I pole dancer myself I constantly come up against this very debate. I've got nothing against strippers, but its just not my cup of tea. I prefer to dance clothed, its warmer that way ;) Cheers!
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't mind it if I could do it...a little extra money would be nice. :-D
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